Audrey Hepburn is a style icon in our eyes and in the eyes of many women. She is definitely one woman that so many of us agree to be an example of elegance!!! There is a great quote from her that says “Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.”
The majority of us would never use that word to describe ourselves. In our minds, we aren’t rich enough, in the right social class, not beautiful enough…….. the list goes on and on. In addition to the negative thoughts, we are all so busy working, cleaning, running errands, and taking care of those around us, we hardly have time to breathe, much less even begin to think about aspiring to be elegant.
Well, here’s something to consider! Elegance as Dianne Vreeland put it is a state of mind! That’s right!!
“The only elegance is in the mind; if you’ve got that, the rest really comes from it.” – Dianne Vreeland
Believe it or not, you have elegance already within you!! Yes, we all do!! We just need to learn the art of it.
Here are some ideas that we can all put into action to unlock the doors to the elegance within all of us.
- Posture!!! – Oh my goodness, do y’all remember the words of our moms as they chided us to stand up straight and hold our shoulders up? We do for sure!!! Well, it turns out that…….. wait for it…….. Our moms were right!!! Our posture absolutely says a lot about us. It speaks to our confidence and the fact that we are in charge. The captain of our own ship!!! So shoulders back and down, chest out, and hold yourself with a certain ease. While this may seem like torture in the beginning, remember, we are changing a habit here, and that our dear sisters, takes time. Stick with it!!! After a while, it will get easier and then voila’, one day it will be your new habit!!
- Hair Style!!!- Choose a hair style to be your signature style! It does not have to be fancy, complicated or expensive. It does need to be a look that flatters the shape of your face and your personality. Whether it is a chin length bob, a shoulder length cut, a layered look or a longer style, that’s up to you!!! Just find one that makes you feel perky and happy and is a look that you can maintain easily!!
- Finger Nails!!!- Our hands are often so overlooked. We use them everyday all day and yet, we neglect them!!! We know that you are thinking that we are talking about long nails! Well, actually we are really talking about taking care of them! A manicure or pedicure occasionally whether you get them polished or not will indeed help you to relax and feel a confidence as you approach your day. Take pleasure in taking care of yourself. You can also do a manicure at home and get a positive result.
- Perfume!!- Do you have a signature scent? Are you aware of the way those around us smell? Spend some time sniffing around and explore the world of perfume!! Which scents appeal to you? Are there certain ones that just make you feel good? That is a sure way to determine which one is right for you at this time! That being said, remember that the goal is not to fumigate the room with our scent, but instead we want to have others catch that wonderful smell as we give them a hug and identify as our aromatic calling card. An awesome scent just speaks of elegance!!!
While we have recommended some tangible ideas for you to employ, we do want to mention an intangible idea as well.
When you are in the company of others, really really be with them. Slow down! Give them your undivided attention. Look them in the eyes, listen to what they are saying , and share a smile with them! Offer them your grace and attention. Make them feel special and important! This is something that is becoming a lost social skill, and is so needed in our interactions with others. What a gift that is to offer others……. and What a sign of a truly elegant woman it is!!!
We realize that these are not all of the ways to cultivate elegance, but we wanted to offer a short and very attainable list of suggestions as a beginning. We will offer more suggestions in later posts!!!
This is not about being perfect!! It’s about being you and releasing the elegance and style that you have inside of you, your own special style, scent, passions!!!!
Much Love to all of our Elegant sisters!!!